里德科特：正常的孩子什么样？

正常的父母亲什么样?

他们只是吃饭，发育，甜甜地刚才吗?

不，不是那样的。正常的父母亲，如果信任父母，他们会全力以赴释放出来自己。

成长反复中，父母亲会通过阻碍、损坏、扬言、损耗、浪费、摇摆和占有展示力量……

一开始，他们并不一定并不需要生活在一个充满爱和力量的生态中(接下来地抱持)，这样他才才会太责怪自己的思维和想象，而在情感发展方面获得成果。”

——温尼贝尔《免除与孩童》

“What is a normal child like? Does he just eat and grow and smile sweetly? No, that is not what he is like. The normal child, if he has confidence in mother and father, pulls out all the stops. In the course of time, he tries out his power to disrupt, to destroy, to frighten, to wear down, to waste, to wangle, and to appropriate . . . At the start he absolutely needs to live in a circle of love and strength (with consequent tolerance) if he is not to be too fearful of his own thoughts and of his imaginings to make progress in his emotional development.”

― Donald Woods Winnicott, Deprivation and Delinquency

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